Divorce-reply to Bonny's post

You state "Till death do we part" or stay together for the kids. From personal experience being the child involved with her parents separating, staying together just for the kids is not fair. It’s not fair for the children or the parents pretending to love when they know they don't. Three and a half years ago my parents decided not to be together anymore, it was a sudden shock to me and my siblings. We all thought about how and why this had happened. The day before everyone seemed fine, all hunky dory, and the next, I got the biggest shock of my life. I could never see my parents separated, we were the perfect family, so I thought.
I don’t want my whole life story out on the net so long story short I finally worked up the courage to ask them what had happened and why the all of a sudden change in heart. They proceeded to explain to me that because of us kids they didn't want to mention anything, they just wanted to pretend everything was okay. I think that tore me up more than anything. Just because kids are involved does not mean that two people are supposed to stay together. The parents deserve to be happy as well as the kids. The kids will learn when they are old enough to understand, why their mom and dad did not stay together.
If the parents are good parents they will know exactly what to say to their kids. No need to "bash" the other parent because they are still the mother or father of their kids. They wouldn't have those kids if it weren't for the other parent.
My parents will always love each other, but it's not the type of love that married people have. It's the type of love that two parents who share kids have for each other. My mom will always love my dad because he is my dad; and vice versa for my dad about my mom. I know your opinion is your opinion and you have it for a reason, and don't misunderstand I am far from calling you wrong. BUT...the fact that parents stay together and pretend to love each other just for the kids’ sake is wrong. Trust me, it’s not fair and it hurts even worse to know that the whole time you were basically being lied to by your own parents. I do however believe that two people should at least try to make it work because of the children. In this case it would be like and unexpected pregnancy. Those two parents may think that it will never work between them and all of a sudden a baby happens, they should try. If it doesn’t work, well that’s what trying is for.
This so called journey that I have been through with them has taught me a lot about relationships; what they should and should not be. Because of my parents I know that pretending is not the way to go and they need to be happy also. The children will learn that the decision their parents made was only for the best, not meaning to hurt anyone in the process.